If you are getting married for the first time the very thought of putting a ceremony together would send most couples running for the smelling salts. What about writing your own vows or ring vows? I think a reasonable reaction might be, well where do I start?
Getting married or taking the final step of commitment is not something that most of us get to do all that often. Its not something we would normally think about until we absolutely have to.
Lets look at what ring vows are.
Like personal vows they are special words spoken by one person to another at the time of giving and receiving wedding or commitment rings. They may take the form of a promise or a simple message. They may be very traditional or they may be quite unique, totally original or a blend of tradition and uniqueness. They are emotionally and spiritually binding. Often one of the most memorable parts of a wedding or commitment ceremony has to be the vows….the personal vows and the ring vows. No matter how simple or how complex your ring vows are they should reflect you, the things that are important to you, your values, your hopes and desires for one another and for your journey of a committed partnership or married life together.
My idea will make it easier for you…….
Are you marrying or marrying again, renewing your wedding or commitment vows or making a commitment? If you need inspiration would like something a little bit different, I have an idea that just might make it a little easier for you. Pretend that you and your fiancee or partner, are having an intimate conversation about giving a ring to one another. What would you say? Write it down. Vows don’t have to be the same. Any vows or promises you make accompany your wish to live a long and happy life together.
Who says the ring vows?
Ring vows, are almost always said by the couple, either before putting rings on or while doing so. They can be read or recited by the couple. The addition of a ‘ring ritual’ adds an extra dimension to the giving and receiving of rings. The celebrant or officiant explains what its all about usually. There are a couple of ring rituals that involve the guests, a ‘ring warming and blessing’ and ‘passing of the rings on a ribbon’. One of the wonderful aspects of participation in ceremonies is that people remember. Long after other ceremonies have been forgotten, ceremonies in which people have participated will be remembered.
Make your ring vows really special. It’s your one time to say to one another things that are meaningful, sincere and will last your lifetime together.
About this author: Elizabeth Gray is an Australian celebrant. She conducts ceremonies for many of life’s events and milestones. For more enlightenment on her ceremonies visit:
www.thevowsbook.com – a compilation of marriage ceremonies
www.renewalofvows.net – renewal of vows ceremonies
www.spiritualceremonies.info – spiritually inspired ceremonies
www.weddingvows101.net – 101 marriage or commitment vows
www.2ndmarriageceremonies.com – second marriage ceremonies
www.gaycommitmentceremony.net – gay commitment/marriage ceremonies
www.namegivingceremonies.com – name giving/naming ceremonies
www.wedding-ceremonies.net – more marriage ceremonies
www.divorce-ceremony.com - divorce ceremonies
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